Find kinky women in San Francisco

I'm looking for love and fun. For love, I'm looking for a man who wants to grow with me in all aspects of life, whether it's kindness, a better personality, finances, and other things that have a positive impact on the longevity of the relationship, because I don't want what happened to me with my ex husband to happen again
Female (37) San Francisco, California
also on fetlife, same name. may post some nsfw stuff there since i can't here. if you know me irl, don't be weird please🙏. in real life people probably know me as the reserved nerdy girl who sits in the front row and gets straight a's. in reality i'm also the depraved horny girl who reads fucked up erotica with her hand down her pants until 3 am in the morning. it turns me on when people think i'm cute and sexy. hearing that one look at my body turns a guy rock hard and makes his mind think unspeakable things makes me unbelievably horny. periodically posting pics for that cheap validations 😅. dm's are open, and horny messages welcome. i'm much more likely to reply to something personal. something that makes me feel like you're into 'me,' and not 'girl #143' from your jack-off folder. i'm also incredibly bad at dirty talk, but i'm young and repressed. bear with me.
Female (20) San Francisco, California
I do as I please My personality tends to switch with the person I am interacting with I have both a dominant side, and a VERY submissive side for certain people. I like to get to know the person I am engaging with prior to indulging in our play, as it is very important to establish our roles and boundaries. Last Tested: 01/28/26 D#isclaimer: I Do NOT consent to my info, pics, or otherwise being used for any kind of project or otherwise, without my absolute written permission.
Female (27) San Francisco, California
my bf and I are looking for a female third for a good time 💕 More active on insta: @naurwenn_
Female (31) San Francisco, California
I'm here for something real and long-term. I'm looking for a kind, honest and respectful man who knows what he wants, communicates well, and wants to build a future together. No games — just two people growing as a team.
Female (38) San Francisco, California
*** If you are a cis man, odds are not in your favor. Fair warning. Hello there ~ I'm here for something different from Fetlife. Interested in friends, play partners, and people I can attend munches, classes, and events with. Connections I'm interested in: - Masochists, submissives, bottoms, pets, slaves, or sub-leaning switches for both short term and long term play partner dynamics. - Queer community folks and other femmes! - Other poly/ENM folks for discussing our dating & relationship experiences! For the record, I am ENM and happily married to my submissive partner. - Local community only. - Dungeon, kink event, munch, and class partners/friends. - Nerdy/Artsy/Weird people for platonic friendships and/or play partners! - Rope enthusiasts I can learn from and with. - 🩸/Needle play enthusiasts (I require recent testing prior to play). - Fire play and wax play lovers. - Fantasy, sci-fi, and horror fans (this includes people who love books, D&D, anime, movies, and cons of course). - Interesting people who can teach me new things. Connections I am NOT interested in: - No long distance. No online. No tourists. - No racists, homophobes, sexists, transphobes or any other sort of bigoted asshole. - No conservatives, centrists, or libertarians. - No sissy fetishists. - No illegal/abusive activities. - No hookups for vanilla sex acts. - No swingers/unicorn hunting couples. - No pay-for-play dynamics (respect to those who are into it, but I'm not).
Female (34) San Francisco, California
A refined D/s dynamic should feel deliberate. Trust is cultivated, boundaries are respected, and submission is something consciously offered—not something assumed. I enjoy exploring the psychology beneath desire: what motivates you, what challenges you, and what becomes possible when control is placed in capable hands. If you’re seeking instant access or superficial theatrics, we’re unlikely to interest one another. If you appreciate discretion, intellectual chemistry, discipline, and a Dominant who values substance as much as authority, introduce yourself properly.
Female (36) San Francisco, California
I'm still pretty new to this whole scene, and honestly, I didn't expect to enjoy it so much. I’ve only experienced a few, but I hope to learn more and experience this lifestyle over time
Female (45) San Francisco, California
Baby Dom, doin this kinky shit professionally! 👑 I enjoy power exchange dynamics that really connect you to your authentic desires. My goal is to be a trusted partner through the exploration of kink and play. One of my favorite dynamics is MommyDom, with a lifestyle feel to it; taking special care that my subs feel nurtured as well as stimulated. 💋
Female (33) San Francisco, California
[Update 6/8/26 - My DMs are purposely closed.. My stable of proven heathens did not come to fruition from social media DMs. For where I am in My Domina life, those with experience or extensive showcasing of self education in the dynamic they seek, may and can approach to introduce in a manner that stands out from the sea of plentiful noise.. I’m not unreachable, I’m simply fan of litmus tests. E/everyone needs to start somewhere, for My lifestyle stable, specifically, a certain baseline and understanding is required, determined by who I am, currently don’t have the excitement for newbies who have done zero education into the lifestyle and Me.] A Domina in all aspects of life, known in the scene as such and very searchable, power exchange and high protocol is the foundation to anything and anyone I choose to engage with. A Sadist that enjoys the servitude and offering of a true masochist and their flesh adorned canvas🩸🥀 Not a submissive, nor a switch. Adores genuine all encompassing submission from truly service-driven submissives (doesn’t begin, exclusive or expected to end with/include sex). Manners and decorum.. not suggestions.. but expectations. My stable of submissives has been carefully tested in every imaginable and unimaginable way.. and enthusiastically add and contribute to My world in all encompassing ways. Quality over quantity, always. “Pleasure Doms” and male D-types who are “submissive in secret”, I wish you the best and luck.. elsewhere. Queer. Demi/Sapiosexual. High EQs and the ability to engage in conversation is paramount. Talking with vs. Talking at. The art of engaging authentic conversation is a rare art form.. and I prefer and only may be intrigued when rarity is present, authentically, Hook up culture, ONS and sexually driven submission has never and continues to not be of any inspiration or interest to Me. 🌵 Phoenix AZ based ✈️ Frequent visitor to SF throughout the year. 4-6x a year.. My pets are simply delicious and know how to serve and treat their Queen.
Female (36) San Francisco, California
I’m drawn to minds before anything else. Real conversation is rare and I know it when I see it. Tell me something true — the strange, specific kind of true — and I'll meet you there. Bring me the thing you think about at 2am — not the polished version, the one you hide when you get out of the bed in the morning. That’s the whole invitation. —————————————————————————— *About Me* Grey is my color, silence my fluent tongue, and writing is how I stay — the way string lights stay lit against a dark I know too well. I turn ache into object, into verse, into something I can set on a shelf and love without bleeding. I keep what others discard: the annotated book, the failing tape, the used thing with a past, the once-loved-by-another. Poetry is the only religion I keep without believing; I study the dark and quiet church, the dead language, the mechanism of things. I’ve written through every version of myself, and kept a poem a stranger gave me one cold dawn like a relic. I read grief in a pupil before a word is spoken — I see who has suffered by the loneliness in their eyes. Solitude isn’t absence for me; it’s the fullest place I have, a pleasure I pity anyone for never tasting. I distrust anything eager to be liked — the peach, the easy comfort, the quick fix — and trust the version with teeth. I love mustard-yellow, moss-green, polka dots, mismatched socks, red eyes, little lights in every corner against the dark. Bring a candle, an old book, a rare fact. I’ve lived more than most would have the nerve to believe, and written all of it down with black pen in notebooks without finish the last pages. Ask me nothing you wouldn’t confess at four in the morning.
Female (36) San Francisco, California
Beauty and brilliance require discipline. Let's Go! If you're highly intelligent, and handsome, and take good care of yourself, let's establish chemistry, mental connection and build mutual trust 0aving a path to fun! I’m an experienced Switch - subby boys and experienced Doms welcomed. I want to feel your energy and passion for life and what you might have in store for me. My eyes are blue and compliment my blond hair 5'6" -fit!
Female (57) San Francisco, California
INFJ, birth sign = Leo San Franciscan looking for local connections . Currently single with one occasional play partner. I practice Ethical non monogamy. Love to travel even day trips. I’m a fan of museums and science. I enjoy walks on the beach or anywhere with nice scenery. I can be a homebody or go out for events whenever the opportunity presents itself. Highly educated with a Masters and Doctoral degree. Post operative woman, completed GRS in 2018. Fully Covid vaccinated and boosted. On pRep and clear sexual health history. I test quarterly and would prefer someone regularly tested as well. I do not smoke and prefer if you don't as well. I’m cool if you want use edibles -420 friendly. I'm a tall and curvy girl. I like to explore, travel, learn, and have fun. Trans accepting women who are kinky get a pass to the front of the line. Kinky Switch that is very open minded. Some of my kinks include strap on play, toys, restraints, corsets, chastity, gags, and much more. Hard limits include ***, ***, sharps, smoking to name a few. I’m left leaning and I’m not interested in MAGA supporting people.
Female (50) San Francisco, California
Newer to the kink world but not new to knowing what I want. I'm a switch, equally comfortable taking charge as I am letting go, and I'm here to explore both sides more intentionally. I value communication, mutual respect and a good vibe above everything else. Not here to check boxes, just genuinely curious and open to seeing what clicks.
Female (34) San Francisco, California
✨ Just moved to SF 💕😈🌈 🖤 Black | Queer 🌈 | Free-spirited | Kinky ⛓️‍💥 Bratty very very Bratty • Switch • Playful Subby 😝•Mommy Domme I can be sweet, nurturing & very much in my Mommy Domme energy… or I can be the brat who wants to be put in her place. 😈 I love dominating and I love being dominated, and honestly? The right chemistry can bring out either side of me. 😏 So what are we doing? You taking control, me taking control, or are we letting the vibes decide? 😈 💕 ENM / Poly Open to intentional connections with Doms, subs, switches, play partners, human pets, puppies/kitties, pet owners, riggers, and people looking for something romantic, casual, ongoing, or somewhere beautifully in between. Chemistry + communication + mutual respect + good vibes = non-negotiable. ❤️💋 🧪 Recently tested — please have done the same! 💕
Female (30) San Francisco, California
I’m 24 years old very laidback and chill outside the bedroom but inside the bedroom I like to get rough and kinky looking for someone who can put me in my place because I’m an absolute brat with daddy issues and a dislike for stupid people, I’m a huge gamer and I enjoy reading and listening to music, in the bedroom I like *** I’m a sadist and a masochist basically use me and *** me and before you ask “who hurt you” um well basically everyone I’ve trusted, I’m a switch so I can be submissive or dominant depending on the situation I’m a rope bunny I love being tied up so yeah that’s about it message me if you wanna know more
Female (26) San Francisco, California
Just looking for online fun!! I'm receiving loads of messages so sorry if I take a bit to answer 😔 got such a cute ass because I'm into edging and anal only
Female (26) San Francisco, California
sub at heart looking for trouble who wants to have fun and connect on a deep level. sapiosexual. exploring women and fun group dynamics. some of my kinks: being soft and rough going down on you spanking teasing control/denial punishments/rewards bondage training
Female (29) San Francisco, California
hey ✨ just here to make friends. before you get any ideas, my big boobs have already been claimed by my pretty submissive baby. i’m not looking for anything romantic or sexual, so please be normal, be respectful, so we could be friends!
Female (25) San Francisco, California
just a young woman looking for a cyber daddy (emphasis on cyber) that could possibly turn into a real one. I have a daddy kink and a sucking kink and I’m always wanting to play and suck. a nice feeding 😌 a data engineer who would love to be able to turn my brain off and suck to soothe. I’m pretty needy of my daddy so enjoy the heavy attention of one man. I tend to be attracted to older white men but very open to men of all different backgrounds. I’m very normal and it’s easy for me to get a date. I’m just a girl with kinks and her own addictions. that’s why I’m here. let’s talk and discuss more, my love. To be very clear, I’m not interested in dating anyone on this app.
Female (31) San Francisco, California
Recently out of a LTR. Not looking for anything serious. Give me a detailed description of how you’d love to eat a woman out. (I’m a sub) would love to be part of an MFM threesome as well and I do have some experience with that 🙃 I don’t mind having a person to rave with!! I’m a bass and riddim kinda gal 💅🏾 I’m 5’ 4” and love to be eaten out. 420 friendly. The move you give, the more I give. I have my limits, just ask :)
Female (25) San Francisco, California
33 f wanting to *** some worthless slaves I love heavy bondage and *** dm me if that interests you and maybe I will message back who is pathetic enough not interested in older than me, under 30 preferred
Female (34) San Francisco, California
I consider myself an ambivert, somewhere in between introversion and extroversion however I'm socially confident and outgoing. I like to socialize and connect with people. I love trying new things, exploring new places, and learning about other cultures. I enjoy camping, picnics, rooftop dinners, road trips, musical concerts, and festivals. In my free time, you'll usually find me reading novels, playing video games, blogging, editing videos, listening to podcasts and audiobooks.
Female (29) San Francisco, California

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I'm here for something real and long-term. I'm looking for a kind, honest and respectful man who knows what he wants, communicates well, and wants to build a future together. No games — just two people growing as a team.
Female (38) San Francisco, California
I'm looking for love and fun. For love, I'm looking for a man who wants to grow with me in all aspects of life, whether it's kindness, a better personality, finances, and other things that have a positive impact on the longevity of the relationship, because I don't want what happened to me with my ex husband to happen again
Female (37) San Francisco, California
A refined D/s dynamic should feel deliberate. Trust is cultivated, boundaries are respected, and submission is something consciously offered—not something assumed. I enjoy exploring the psychology beneath desire: what motivates you, what challenges you, and what becomes possible when control is placed in capable hands. If you’re seeking instant access or superficial theatrics, we’re unlikely to interest one another. If you appreciate discretion, intellectual chemistry, discipline, and a Dominant who values substance as much as authority, introduce yourself properly.
Female (36) San Francisco, California
also on fetlife, same name. may post some nsfw stuff there since i can't here. if you know me irl, don't be weird please🙏. in real life people probably know me as the reserved nerdy girl who sits in the front row and gets straight a's. in reality i'm also the depraved horny girl who reads fucked up erotica with her hand down her pants until 3 am in the morning. it turns me on when people think i'm cute and sexy. hearing that one look at my body turns a guy rock hard and makes his mind think unspeakable things makes me unbelievably horny. periodically posting pics for that cheap validations 😅. dm's are open, and horny messages welcome. i'm much more likely to reply to something personal. something that makes me feel like you're into 'me,' and not 'girl #143' from your jack-off folder. i'm also incredibly bad at dirty talk, but i'm young and repressed. bear with me.
Female (20) San Francisco, California
I'm still pretty new to this whole scene, and honestly, I didn't expect to enjoy it so much. I’ve only experienced a few, but I hope to learn more and experience this lifestyle over time
Female (45) San Francisco, California
my bf and I are looking for a female third for a good time 💕 More active on insta: @naurwenn_
Female (31) San Francisco, California
I do as I please My personality tends to switch with the person I am interacting with I have both a dominant side, and a VERY submissive side for certain people. I like to get to know the person I am engaging with prior to indulging in our play, as it is very important to establish our roles and boundaries. Last Tested: 01/28/26 D#isclaimer: I Do NOT consent to my info, pics, or otherwise being used for any kind of project or otherwise, without my absolute written permission.
Female (27) San Francisco, California
*** If you are a cis man, odds are not in your favor. Fair warning. Hello there ~ I'm here for something different from Fetlife. Interested in friends, play partners, and people I can attend munches, classes, and events with. Connections I'm interested in: - Masochists, submissives, bottoms, pets, slaves, or sub-leaning switches for both short term and long term play partner dynamics. - Queer community folks and other femmes! - Other poly/ENM folks for discussing our dating & relationship experiences! For the record, I am ENM and happily married to my submissive partner. - Local community only. - Dungeon, kink event, munch, and class partners/friends. - Nerdy/Artsy/Weird people for platonic friendships and/or play partners! - Rope enthusiasts I can learn from and with. - 🩸/Needle play enthusiasts (I require recent testing prior to play). - Fire play and wax play lovers. - Fantasy, sci-fi, and horror fans (this includes people who love books, D&D, anime, movies, and cons of course). - Interesting people who can teach me new things. Connections I am NOT interested in: - No long distance. No online. No tourists. - No racists, homophobes, sexists, transphobes or any other sort of bigoted asshole. - No conservatives, centrists, or libertarians. - No sissy fetishists. - No illegal/abusive activities. - No hookups for vanilla sex acts. - No swingers/unicorn hunting couples. - No pay-for-play dynamics (respect to those who are into it, but I'm not).
Female (34) San Francisco, California
Baby Dom, doin this kinky shit professionally! 👑 I enjoy power exchange dynamics that really connect you to your authentic desires. My goal is to be a trusted partner through the exploration of kink and play. One of my favorite dynamics is MommyDom, with a lifestyle feel to it; taking special care that my subs feel nurtured as well as stimulated. 💋
Female (33) San Francisco, California
Newer to the kink world but not new to knowing what I want. I'm a switch, equally comfortable taking charge as I am letting go, and I'm here to explore both sides more intentionally. I value communication, mutual respect and a good vibe above everything else. Not here to check boxes, just genuinely curious and open to seeing what clicks.
Female (34) San Francisco, California
INFJ, birth sign = Leo San Franciscan looking for local connections . Currently single with one occasional play partner. I practice Ethical non monogamy. Love to travel even day trips. I’m a fan of museums and science. I enjoy walks on the beach or anywhere with nice scenery. I can be a homebody or go out for events whenever the opportunity presents itself. Highly educated with a Masters and Doctoral degree. Post operative woman, completed GRS in 2018. Fully Covid vaccinated and boosted. On pRep and clear sexual health history. I test quarterly and would prefer someone regularly tested as well. I do not smoke and prefer if you don't as well. I’m cool if you want use edibles -420 friendly. I'm a tall and curvy girl. I like to explore, travel, learn, and have fun. Trans accepting women who are kinky get a pass to the front of the line. Kinky Switch that is very open minded. Some of my kinks include strap on play, toys, restraints, corsets, chastity, gags, and much more. Hard limits include ***, ***, sharps, smoking to name a few. I’m left leaning and I’m not interested in MAGA supporting people.
Female (50) San Francisco, California
Just looking for online fun!! I'm receiving loads of messages so sorry if I take a bit to answer 😔 got such a cute ass because I'm into edging and anal only
Female (26) San Francisco, California
I consider myself an ambivert, somewhere in between introversion and extroversion however I'm socially confident and outgoing. I like to socialize and connect with people. I love trying new things, exploring new places, and learning about other cultures. I enjoy camping, picnics, rooftop dinners, road trips, musical concerts, and festivals. In my free time, you'll usually find me reading novels, playing video games, blogging, editing videos, listening to podcasts and audiobooks.
Female (29) San Francisco, California
I live with my cis/het male partner, our ***ager, and 3 cats. I’m an RN on a Med/Surg unit in a local hospital. I’m highly educated, perimenopausal, and Gen X, so take that as you will. I’m polyamorous and looking to date separate from my partner. I’m looking for a couple different dynamics: 1) a person with a vagina who is on the masculine side to bind and dominate my brattiness; 2) a daddy to care for me as a Middle (pre***, not little). I definitely am looking for sexual dynamics. I have been kinky for about 25 years, with varying degrees of dedication. I’ve also been a Domme, but that was a long time ago and I have no wish to be in that role again.
Female (47) San Francisco, California
Hi. I'm just a (trans) lady looking for kinky fun. Mostly into women and non-binary folks, but who knows? I like bondage, being a bit of a brat, and occasionally being a kitty. Outside of kink I like playing music and video games.
Female (38) San Francisco, California
33 f wanting to *** some worthless slaves I love heavy bondage and *** dm me if that interests you and maybe I will message back who is pathetic enough not interested in older than me, under 30 preferred
Female (34) San Francisco, California
I wanna give someone a foot job. I have big feet size 8 1/2 - 9 . I personally like to keep them pedicured! I don’t have to much experience I. this field but you gotta start somewhere:) I’m of African descent, and weigh a good amount, but I’m not looking to be touched. I just want to try for a foot job and maybe a kiss. probably not. I’m quite picky. if I like it and you enough maybe a boob job. a little more abt me:) Likes/receiving: cnc edging teasing degrading praise *** impact play over stimulation butt play face fucking feet worship double/triple penetration free use breeding (actual breeding ) role playing I do have a domme side but that’s a different list on its own. quite similar though, think most of these but giving instead. I love reciprocation.
Female (23) San Francisco, California
Here for fun, chemistry, and good vibes. Looking for kinky dates and like-minded people. No strings attached, but communication and respect are a must. ✨
Female (25) San Francisco, California
attention wh0re with a praise k!nk looking for entertainment, boring will be ignored. the likelihood of a reply increases with quality of your first message ;)
Female (27) San Francisco, California
What I’m looking for is a professional, respectful dynamic built on clear communication, consistency, and mutual understanding. Financial security is an important part of that dynamic for me, and I value someone who genuinely appreciates the time, energy, and attention I invest. I’m interested in connections where expectations are transparent and respect goes both ways always ☺️
Female (26) San Francisco, California
I am your Goddess. Your limits are irrelevant; your submission is your liberation. Control is my art, and you are my masterpiece. Serve, obey, and lose yourself in my dominance
Female (36) San Francisco, California
I’m drawn to minds before anything else. Real conversation is rare and I know it when I see it. Tell me something true — the strange, specific kind of true — and I'll meet you there. Bring me the thing you think about at 2am — not the polished version, the one you hide when you get out of the bed in the morning. That’s the whole invitation. —————————————————————————— *About Me* Grey is my color, silence my fluent tongue, and writing is how I stay — the way string lights stay lit against a dark I know too well. I turn ache into object, into verse, into something I can set on a shelf and love without bleeding. I keep what others discard: the annotated book, the failing tape, the used thing with a past, the once-loved-by-another. Poetry is the only religion I keep without believing; I study the dark and quiet church, the dead language, the mechanism of things. I’ve written through every version of myself, and kept a poem a stranger gave me one cold dawn like a relic. I read grief in a pupil before a word is spoken — I see who has suffered by the loneliness in their eyes. Solitude isn’t absence for me; it’s the fullest place I have, a pleasure I pity anyone for never tasting. I distrust anything eager to be liked — the peach, the easy comfort, the quick fix — and trust the version with teeth. I love mustard-yellow, moss-green, polka dots, mismatched socks, red eyes, little lights in every corner against the dark. Bring a candle, an old book, a rare fact. I’ve lived more than most would have the nerve to believe, and written all of it down with black pen in notebooks without finish the last pages. Ask me nothing you wouldn’t confess at four in the morning.
Female (36) San Francisco, California
If you’re a butch dyke or transmasc top looking to defile a femme, we should talk. If you’re not, we shouldn’t.
Female (56) San Francisco, California
I’m a dom looking for a sub who will spoil me with gifts. I want to take care of them in return. it’s just that simple. add me on snap if your serious about worshipping me: drewdomme
Female (22) San Francisco, California

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